which are worst

simple question,
vent out ur emotion at a place in the internet where no one know except few ppl or vent out at a place in the internet where a lot of ppl know?

to understand this, first set the rules that venting out emotion at a place in the internet is bad thing to do because sumbody might find out (according to sumone)

but, whenever they vent their emotion in a place where a lot of ppl can know it is ok with reason it is my place, my account, up to me what i want to put.. but when u vent ur emotion in a place where only few ppl know its existence, they start to flip out and say, i dun like ur way of venting ur emotion, u dun know me, i am better than u are, etc..

bear in mind that no names were mentioned in both parties.. so, what do u think of a person who doesnt like other ppl venting out their emotion in the internet but they themselves do it?

The key to master anything

Everyone in this world learn somthin everyday either by formal education or non-formal or unintentionally coz learning is knowing about something be it necessary or unnecessary.. but there is no such thing as unnecessary knowledge because all knowledge are gifts from Allah to His creation in this world..

different ppl has different level of proficiency in acquiring knowledge, retain the knowledge and applying it.. what make ppl have different level of proficiency? generally speaking it about whether that person have the same interest to know about it.. if that person doesn't have any interest then the proficiency will drop and vice versa..

so, what makes a person able to master about sumthin? some say deep interest, some say obsession, but both are actually the same.. this is because they willing to do anything for it including sacrificing precious time, confined themselves in isolation or worse sacrificing relationship..

it is true.. this is because if a person put all his thought into one issue, he/she can achieve extraordinary things with a price of course which is not knowing of anything other than the issue they focus on.. nowadays in professional field, it can be called specialization..

the less they think about other issue and focus on the main issue the better they are at dealing that issue but the consequence include they become worst at dealing other issues.. if they can handle the consequences its ok but almost all ppl at one time in the future regret about not picking the better way of life..

some regret it early and some regret it later.. the earlier they regret the better it is because they have more time to reenact the living their lost.. this is because death is something that is uncertain.. someone who are very healthy can die anytime, or someone having treated by the most advanced medical services existed also can die.. the time of death, only Allah knows when.. we only know when that person already breath his/her last air..

back to the topic, it is actually up to the individual to pick on which aspect of their life to master upon at that particular time.. the best would be balanced it and pick the best path when arriving at the crossroad.. the hint on which path to take is when both ur mind and emotion knows that it is the path to take..

because everything we did in our life, we gain sumthin and we lose sumthing.. that is the rule of this world.. everything has a price.. everything must be balanced out or exist in equilibrium.. sometime u have to learn to let go something u really love in order for u to master something that u really want that includes someone that has a special place in ur heart..

Mind and Emotion

The difference between human and animal is that Allah give human the gift of the mind which enable us to differentiate right and wrong, make sound judgement, to develop ourselves to become much better.. without our mind, we are like animals which are gifted with instincts..

well how about emotions? some expert believe animals also have emotions but it is not proven scientifically yet but who knows, Allah can create anything and everything is possible to Him..

as far as we are concern, mind and emotion are two main driving force of thinking process.. these two are the two extreme in a spectrum of forces driving the thinking process..

so, who is on which extreme?.. by nature, man is widely distributed on the spectrum inclining towards the mind and woman is widely distributed on the spectrum inclining towards the emotion.. although there are some rare occasion that the distribution is off the normal grid.. this shows that man thinking process is mainly influence by the mind and woman is influence mainly by the emotion..

this is the reason why man are better in becoming leaders and woman are better in caring for loved ones.. this does not make man are better than woman or vice versa.. it shows that in order to do somthing, say something, feel something, solve something, or think about something, we can view it from two general prespective although each individual perspective are unique..

now comes to why man never understand woman and vice versa.. this is because both of them are thinking from their own perspective with their own thinking process.. of course they will not understand each other because they are not seeing what the other gender see.. if u are book lovin type u;ll come across the book call "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus".. it is true in the sense that when compare between these two planets, it is opposite to each other, in terms of rotational direction, orbit and atmospheric condition.. so those fr venus will never understand those from mars because there are accustomed to each own culture and each own abilities and weaknesses..

unless, they are willing to go outside their comfort zone and start thinking from both mind emotion.. meaning making their driving force for thinking both mind and emotion is complete balance.. balance/equilibrium/wasatiah is an important key in this world.. without balance things will go chaotic and results in destruction..

back to the topic at hand, what is between venus and mars? of coz it is the earth.. careful study shows that earth has both elements found in venus and mars although not all and the result is this planet is flourishing with lifeforms and beautiful scenery.. the point is if human starts to balanced out they thinking process's driving force, they can do much2 more than what they can realize..

Clear example is during the time of Rasulullah, there are war and battle skirmishes occurs and the first battle which is the Battle of Badr by which 300 muslims fought against one thousands Quraisy ppl that oppose them and only equipped with only branches of Tamar.. in the end the muslims won the battle.. y is these ppl underequipped, unexperienced able to win the battle? this is because they've unleashed the full potential of human body by synchronizing both their mind and emotion in a single goal.. to fight for Allah..

normally, the balance is slightly off due to the nature of human however there are some cases that balance is thrown off very far resulting in either thinking based solely on the mind or thinking based solely on the emotion.. this will result in the unsound decision making and decision that satisfy oneself only or decision that satisfy other ppl only which can result in accumulation of emotional and mental stress that consequently have predisposition towards mental or emotional illness should the person unable to bear it.. side effect includes mixing professional matters with personal matters, religious matter and non-religious matters and so on..

there are also condition where someone is lost in thinking using the different driving force resulting in that person not becoming themselves.. it is hard to find ur way back once u r lost unless u still remember sumthin that reminds of who u r when u using ur usual driving force to think.. the situation is often being confused with those who able to synchronize their mind and emotion.. it is alwiz seen in when ppl are striving for sumthin and have the potential to lose what they hold on, ppl that are in love, ppl that recently experience heavy or severe mental/physical/emotional trauma.. the difference between those that able to synchronize their emotion and mind is that the decision, the judgement and know when to act in adapting to the ever changing environment and accepting it..

what would happen if the two driving force in the human body have different point in viewing sumthing regardless of which one is dominant? simply put it will result in decision that keep on changing rapidly in order to satisfy both driving force or decision that is made by dominant driving force for thinking that make that person being unhappy, suppressing the other driving force which consequently result in that person unconsciously making decision or act based on the suppressed driving force.. they don't realize it unless someone show it back to them how they act and let them view from third person perspective.. so what will be the consequence of these unconscious act? it can affect anything that is related to that person or other person when the act is busted or made known and ended with somebody having unexpected heavy physical/mental/emotional stress..

the point is to balance out both ur mind and emotion.. u need ur mind to make sound judgement and u also need ur emotion to make judgement that is not selfish or disheartening to other ppl or to urself..

good choices at the crossroad

almost all of the time when good choices are made, u are happy and feel free.. when good choices are made, our plans are on track, our anxieties are relieve and we feel that we have control of our lives.. very2 true

but.. are good choices alwiz be the best choice? the answer is no.. this is because good choices are maybe only good for you and maybe bring problems or misery or difficulties to other ppl.. but that is not the point here.. the point is if someone alwiz making good choices in their life, once they've stumble upon bad choices, they will start go go down the drain and find it hard to recover.. apart from that, good choices boost up morale, ego, confidence level.. ppl that have problem controlling these aspect might end up lookin down on other ppl and think that they are alwiz right, which are not true since the nature of human is to make mistakes..

in this world, things need to be in balance or wasatiah.. we cannot make too much bad choices and we cannot make to much good choices.. coz too many good choices makes us forget who we really are before and too much bad choices end u up in more problems than before..

the best choice is the one that u pick accurately suitable to the time, place and person.. some situation requires u to make bad choices for greater good.. like a proverb sayin u need to be cruel to be kind.. some situation u need to make good choices so that u'll have sumthin to hold in order to continue ur life.. so the best choice will be either one using at the right place, right time and right person.. and difference in the variation of these three element results in different choice to be made..

bad choices at the crossroad

let say u've pick one path at the crossroad and u found out that it was path that makes u unhappy or misery or demotivated or result in any negative consequences, usually ppl tend to backtrack to the crossroad and choose the better path.. but unfortunately, it is not possible because if u backtrack, u'll not come across the same crossroad.. it will be different one since the timeline has been changed..

the reason ppl want to backtrack is because they are afraid of changes, afraid of not having the same thing.. this group of ppl is not positive thinkers, they cant adapt well to the changes of the environment and they alwiz find their life very2 difficult.. well most of the ppl manage to endure the bad choices in their life but some big bad choices results in bigger emotional or mental scar.. some say only time can heal.. well it is true but it u just do nothing and wait, ur life will fall apart.. confront the consequences, maintain ur life, try to correct it as soon as possible and remember the mistake u made so that u'll not repeat it back again.. just remember not to be an ignorant fool.. waiting is good but sumtimes waiting can also do more damage.. just need to know when to wait and when to act..

the point is, once u've chosen a path, it is very2 unlikely that u can undo it and have to live with it the rest of ur life.. treasure it coz it is ur experience in life and it will helps u in ur future.. this is because everything that happens in the world is by the will of Allah and everything that happens in the world has something that we can learn from it or is a "hikmah".. therefore, try to be less ignorant and deem certain things unnecessary because if it really unnecessary, Allah wouldn't make it happen..

stuck at the crossroad

everyone has at least once experience in their life a point by which they find it very difficult to make a decision.. for example, to go out @ to stay in, to keep it or to let it go @ to move up or to move down..
generally this problem occurs when limited information is available to make the judgement and ppl are stuck in a ill-defined line between the two choices.. other causes includes emotional barrier, commitment @ responsibility barrier and egoistic barrier.. ppl alwiz make the third option which is wait & decide later but eventually they will end up in a situation of choosing the worst decision out of available option..
when that time comes, they usually feel angry & upset.. not because of the situation but because of not making better decision in the past.. although some deny that they took the wrong turn that end up with more problems but that is normal as they are grieving and undergo the 5 stages of grieve (denial, anger, depression, bargaining and acceptance).. most of ppl will stay longer in denial and depression state especially those with big ego and alwiz think full of themselves but eventually all ppl will pass all stages of grieve..
back to the topic, if u happen to be stuck at the crossroad, u can either gather more information to help u decide or if it not possible to gain more information, just choose the one closes to ur dreams and be a little bit selfish.. it is not wrong to be selfish in this case coz after all, other ppl become selfish when things that are precious to them are threatened..
what about the third option? some ppl say that there alwiz be more than two options available.. indeed there is third option which is be ignorant, sit quitely, do nothing, wait and depend on the fate.. some ppl love this option but eventually they'll regret it the most since fate is a double edge sword unless u can predict the future..
up to u to choose which path to take.. just make sure u r prepare to handle the path and its consequences.. dun start blaming on the surrounding if the path does not turn out as what u r expecting